Last night, I gave my mom a shower.
First I gave her a pain pill, twenty minutes prior.
Then I put a shower chair in my walk in shower stall. I turned on the water to a comfortable temperature. I helped her undress and sit in the chair.
She was embarrassed. A modest woman, she was not happy about her daughter seeing her in her natural state. I told her that as a nurse, I have seen lots of naked bodies and have given up on the notion that bodies are as perfect under the clothes are they appear to be when they are clothed.
But to be very honest, it is different when it is your mom. It is very sobering to see your mother in such a state of humility. These last few days have not gone like I thought they would when I woke up each morning.
We used baby shampoo and soap because I wanted to make sure that she did not have issues with the products getting into her eyes. I also wanted to make sure that if we did not rinse it all off, that it would not chaff her skin.
I stood back and allowed her to do as much for herself as she could. I squirted the soap with farty noises on to the wash cloth that she held up to me. Then I squirted soap on to the long handled brush that she used to scrub her legs with. I used that same brush to scrub her back for a very long time, because she said that it felt good.
I helped towel off and then rubbed baby lotion onto her back, her arms and her feet. I dressed her in big loose pjs and non slip socks.
She used her walker to get back to her room and I gave her the pillow so that she could back up and sit down on the bed.
She took a breathing treatment and then an incentive spirometer excercise. She then used the pillow so that she could lay down. Out she went.
That was a lot of work.
I figured out the trick to get her to eat. She is refusing foods, so I fix her a small very nutritious meal. Then I put the pain pill bottle on the table. She is due for the pain meds, but I tell her that they are her dessert. She must eat her food first.
Tomorrow we will start weaning back 1/2 hour at a time until she is on an every 6 hour schedule. But for now, she needs her rest.